So you're pregnant for the first time! First of all, congratulations, and second... Relax... but not for long! There's much to do and much to learn, but we're here to give you a hand with a few tips that you usually don't find in all the books or the fancy Instagram accounts you follow.
Yes, pregnancy is beautiful and you're gonna glow (you're probably glowing already), but there are also some not-so-nice things you'll have to endure. As usual, CaptainMums is here to tip you about the good and the bad of being pregnant for the first time. Don't miss out on our special tips for first-time mummies, trimester by trimester!
Being pregnant for the first time: The first trimester
Welcome to your own particular roller-coaster! When future mums discover that they're pregnant for the first time, they tend to want to do everything during the first week: think about baby names, choose the best antenatal care, buy maternity clothes and read all the books about pregnancy and parenting they can get ahold of... But relax! You do have a few months ahead of you to prepare all the logistics -in and out of your mind. Here are our recommendations for that exciting first trimester:
- Sit down, think and talk: Before running around doing things, sit down and think about what's ahead of you - and talk about it with your partner, friends, family or whoever you want. This is not the first nor the last time you'll experience a huge change in your life, but we don't always have the chance to experience the process being pretty aware of what's going to happen next. So enjoy it!
- Find a heath care provider: We don't have to stress, but this is a must. It's important that your medical companions during your pregnancy and your first few months with your baby are people you trust and you like.
- Read, but only whatever works for you: Google is not your best friend... and all the maternity and parenting books available may not be either. Don't get us wrong, you do need to be well informed about what's best for you and the baby at this stage, and about what to expect, but if you get too anxious or obsessed, just listen to the doctors. Stress sure isn't a good friend!
- Refrain from shopping: It's possible that your usual clothes aren't too comfortable anymore, and you will be tempted to go maternity-zilla in the shops. Buy something bigger and more comfortable if you need to, but keep in mind that you're going to get much, much bigger than you are right now. It's not a big deal if you end up buying two sets of maternity clothes - after all, sometimes it's necessary. But keep in mind that the belly will keep growing so you don't overdo it, especially if you're on a budget!
- Sex it up: Unless the doctors tell you otherwise due to a pregnacny condition, having sex is perfectly healthy during pregnancy. So don't refrain if you feel like it!
Being pregnant for the first time: The second trimester
Once you reach the second trimester you will find some time to relax. Now is the time to do all those things you wanted to complete when you first found out that you were pregnant for the first time. Here are our recommendations:
- Shopping: Now is the time! If you followed our previous advice on maternity clothes, now you're going to be thankful for it. Now is the best time to go buy maternity clothes, without forgetting that you're going to get EVEN BIGGER -feet included.
- Sleep, read and enjoy yourself: Once the baby comes, you won't have too much time for yourself, so spend time doing the things you enjoy, whatever they are (except if they are too risky when there's a baby on the way, of course - check with your doctor).
- Prepare the baby's room: The second trimester is a little bit like the pregnancy oasis, because the nasty symptoms typical from the first are more mellow or disappear, and you aren't still too big to move around and get stuff done. This is why it is the best time to get the nursery ready and to cross other major items off your list.
- Prepare your pelvis: If you haven't yet, it's time to do Kegel exercises, my friend. If you're going for a natural birth, you want that area of your body as strong as possible, and Kegel exercises are a must. Besides, strengthening that are has other sexy perks!
Being pregnant for the first time: The third trimester
If the first trimester was a real roller-coaster, the third is even more thrilling... In a whole lot different way! The nervousness and the feelings of anticipation for all the changes that are going to take place in your life will multiply, and now the baby is really coming... So you need tips more than ever before!
- Surrender to your nesting instinct: Alright, maybe not all the way - you'll still need your sleep! But this is the time to stock up on nappies and other baby essentials, as well as kitchen basics, bathroom supplies and maxi pads and basics for yourself.
- Waterproof your bed. We know, we know. But the need to pee will be back, your waters may break any time and you need to be prepared. A waterproof pad will help you protect your mattress and your bedding.
- Baby shower or wish list: Whether you have a baby shower or not, make a wishlisht so your friends and family know what you need for the baby. This way, you don't risk having too many sets of baby bottles, for instance. Your loved ones will be thankful for it too, as what they will want is to give you something that you will like but also need and use.
- Netflix & chill: There are other things to prepare. The next few months are going to be beautiful, but tough, so you need to make your life as easy for you as you can. Get a good streaming account so you have access to your favourite shows and films for those night feeds!
Do you have any other tips for those who are pregnant for the first time? We'd love to hear them, so don't forget to share them with us in the comment section!