having a baby

If you plan on having a baby or you have just found out that you are pregnant, you may be soaking up as much information as possible about what to expect.

From pregnancy symptoms to antenatal appointments... everything! However, if you are expecting a child for the first time, you'll come across some facts that no one ever told you about having a baby. There are certain details and anecdotes that you may not find in regular manuals for future mums and that you should be aware of. 

Here are some of the things you may be facing throughout these 9 months. Don't let pregnancy catch you unprepared!


1- Experts everywhere!

When you are pregnant, you'll get advice from pretty much everybody. No matter how pregnancy affects every woman differently, you'll be told how you are supposed to feel according to other women's experiences. Or, what's more, you may even be lectured about having a baby by ladies who've never been pregnant... and by men!


2- You are not Bigfoot, but almost 

Oh yes, you should expect your feet to enlarge, due to the ligaments loosening, which is caused by pregnancy hormones. Sorry, but you may have to get new shoes! Don't worry, though, because your feet will shrink eventually.


3- You may feel too emotional 

If you find yourself crying more than you ever imagined after you find out you’re having a baby, keep calm. Let's picture it this way: your hormones are throwing a 'party', but you are not invited. Instead, you may feel extremely emotional and break into tears because of even the cheesiest things. If somebody hurts your feelings, you may take it a lot more seriously as well.


4- Sex machine

A a lot of women have increased libido when they are carrying a child... and, yes, pregnancy hormones are the ones to blame again! If you want to have sex all the time, now you know why.


5- You may poo while delivering

We'll probably agree that the idea of passing a stool when trying to push your baby out is a little gross, yet it makes sense. You'll be making such a huge effort and, as a result, accidents may happen.


6- You'll grow a lustrous mane... that will fall out!

Your hair will probably get very thick and shiny when having a baby on the way, due to hormonal changes. However, such a nice mane will fall out within the next months after birth, so don’t grow too attached to it!


7- Irrational fear about your baby's health may get hold of you

At some point of your pregnancy, you may get really scared and even convinced about your future munchkin having a genetic defect or a fatal illness. Try to face the screening tests with the best attitude, because your little one will most likely be ok.


8- Expect to bleed for a month or even more

Yes, you'll bleed from four to six weeks after having a baby. It's the way your body cleanses the delivery 'leftovers'.


9- C-sections bring on terrible gas pains

If you happen to need a C-section, not only will you go through a longer recovery, but this will also be unpleasant. For example, you'll have a lot of trouble passing gas after surgery, so expect to be in pain. And let's not talk about coughing... avoid it at all cost!


10- It may not be love at first sight 

If you don't experience a powerful burst of love when you see your baby for the first time, don't feel guilty. We've seen such a scene in multiple films, but it doesn't always happen that way. Labour will leave you groggy and exhausted, so it's reasonable that you are not overjoyed. Plus, postnatal depression is pretty common and can play an important role in regards to this feeling.


11- People may be 'judgy' if you formula-feed your baby 

Let's admit it, nursing brings out the worst in people. If you decide not to breastfeed your child or you can't, due to medical reasons, you may have to deal with awkward situations. Some people may ask you why, as if there was something wrong with bottle-feeding your child. Don't let them bother you!


12- Don't waste money on toys 

There's no need for you to stock up on toys or stuffed animals for your baby, since your family and friends will provide him with countless presents. Before you know it, your house will look like a playschool.


These are just some of the things that you may have to put up with when having a baby. Some are good, while others aren't that desirable... That said, as time goes by, you'll look back and such anecdotes may turn into good memories. Most importantly, all is part of a beautiful mosaic: the experience of waiting for, and welcoming, your little one.